Thank-you note fun with youth

Engage youth in a hands-on experience to write a good thank-you note.

Youth writing a thank-you note
Youth from Alabama Cooperative Extension Service's Chilton County 4-H writes a thank-you note. All photos by Gay E. West, Alabama Cooperative Extension Service.

Hand-written thank-you notes are an important part of our personal and professional lives, and despite changes in technology, still have a large impact on society. Using the “Seven Steps to a Great Thank-You Note” resource from Michigan State University Extension, adults can work with youth to practice writing a great thank-you note.

The first step is to help young people brainstorm when and why thank-you notes are important. Youth can brainstorm as a group and record on a sheet of paper or share in small groups. Reference the hand-out to share reasons they might not come up with on their own. Ask youth how thank-you notes make them feel and share how writing a thank-you note allows them to pass this feeling on to someone else.

Next, cover the “Seven Steps to a Great Thank-You Note.” Give out the handout at this time and have youth look at the examples. 

The fun comes when you move on to the hands-on experience. There are two approaches to this:

  1. Create samples of thank-you notes (both good and not-so-good) and have youth critique and make changes to those notes, locating the seven steps.
  2. Youth create their own thank-you notes.

Having youth create their own thank-you notes is often a more meaningful activity. Start by brainstorming who they might want to send a thank-you note. This process helps youth find direction and practice overall gratitude. At the least, offering your name, as facilitator, can be a starting idea for youth who might struggle to come up with a name.

Have youth write out their thank-you note on loose-leaf paper. Then, have them exchange it with another person, if comfortable, and check the note for all seven steps. If they are not comfortable sharing with a peer, have an adult, mentor or facilitator in the room review with them. Have youth record the seven steps using a marker or tab a post-it note where the seven steps are located.

Thank-you noteOnce a final version of the thank-you note is ready, have varieties of thank-you note cards available for youth to use and transfer their corrected note onto a thank-you card. It can be fun to have youth decorate their thank-you notes with stamps or other supplies as was done in Chilton County 4-H with Alabama Cooperative Extension Services (see photos).

At the end, have young people send their thank-you notes to their recipients. You may have to cover appropriate steps for addressing envelopes. Some groups have written thank-you notes addressed to a similar individual or organization at one group meeting. This could be to judges, guest speakers, 4-H leaders, parents or program sponsors. This is a great way to not only teach a skill, but to thank those who help make the program possible.

Thanking never goes out of style!

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